Stand, don’t fight. annoys me when campaigns use marketing slogans by saying they want to fight. Fight against waste, against cancer or any other cause. What we focus on is what we get. So, if we are focused on the fight, we will find all the evidence to prove we must fight. There is an alternative. I prefer to stand for what I believe. Shift the focus from pushing against something and instead decide what it is you want instead. Like a clean world, healthy cells or any other worthy cause. It seems so easy to create a rallying cry against something. But, what is it you stand for?
My journey started when I realised I liked crunchy toast. My kids ate pale toast, so I went along because it was easier to just fit in. Then I discovered I could have toast just the way I like it. That transformed my life. I started applying that to all areas of my life. I started to ask myself questions about what I actually wanted and what was important to me. It was a journey that would last years. I did a lot of discovery and experimentation to find what I actually liked.
My example of toast was simple. Simple can create profound change. Take some time to think of important areas of your life where we go along for the journey because you don’t want to cause anyone trouble. Think about beliefs you may have inherited that shape what you think you want. Think about what beliefs you may have inherited from your childhood. As we experience life, we form our own beliefs and gradually make decisions as we progress through life.
What I’m suggesting is that you take some time to actually right down what you believe in and what you stand for. I call this your own personal philosophy. Imagine that you were about to share with some other young women your lessons in life. What you found to work and what you discovered was worth avoiding. Write your own story and articulate, if only for you, how you believe things should work in the world. You may be surprised at what you find.
There is a lot of power in writing things down. Grab a new journal or notebook and start a daily exercise of asking a few questions such as, what’s most important in friendship, how kind is the world and what do I want to be known for. Explore and write down the first thoughts that come to mind. After a number of days you will get a picture of what’s important to you. Then, make choices about what you stand for. When you stand for something you have conviction. A test I use is by asking is this good for me, good for you, good for the greater good? If yes to all then you’ve got yourself some awesome beliefs and views to stand for.